about love
About love
What do we seek really when seeking love? Is possibly for validation that we are good enough for others or companionship. I think sometimes the reason love doesn’t work is because we seek it out first for these very reason and other reasons as well.
Then, there is the fact that when we find it we never see it until its gone or else we wasted too much time trying to find it when it’s right in front of our faces.
Time and time again, I have thought I have found something or someone special just to be let down. I sometimes pondered it and concluded it was just me being dumb and stupid. Blaming the failure on myself and saying I wasn’t good enough. Now realize it was not me but my approach to love itself.
Love is not something to be sought out but hoped for. You live life as it comes at you planning for the best preparing for the worst. If you do find love you, love it and make it a part of you. If it ever goes away you move on. Spending some time mourning then building a bridge to get over the river of tears.
Love is unpredictable and it is human nature is to fight change so why do we seek love so much? If it causes so much pain why bother with it? I say because it also shows happiness you cannot get through another way, happiness that wouldn’t be appreciated without pain. Pain is what makes happiness in love grand.
So ask yourself all things consider do you love or not.
Why is love an important part of life
Love, what is it and why is it so important to us? Sometimes I stay up at night crying thinking it the worst thing ever and then next I thank god for it. To be honest I think love is the most important part of life. Loving yourself first and then others develops a great sense of pride, fulfillment happiness and gratefulness for life.
I think without love you can become much more focused on physical aspects of success in life and forget the emotional fulfillment everyone needs. That can be not only a lonely life but a sad, empty, hurtful life full of pain. I realize even with love life is painful but the pain love entails is enriching. It can change you life if you look at it positively. I know from experience. I was once in love with a very big jerk. I gave him something I could not get back and never will. That something was my virginity. He used me for it and as much as I should hate him I actually thank him. I am angry at him but not only do I know what love is I also know to not let it make you do things you wouldn’t normally do. I took pride in my virginity as I was eighteen and still had it. Most people I knew lost it young and though I don’t degrade them or look down at them but simply look at what it put them through and learn from it. Now I know why I waited. Emotionally I would have been distraught if I hadn’t.
Hopefully if you read this you will see that even though the pain I went through obviously hurt me it helped me too. I think love can be that way for anyone who has the right outlook.
Family
Family is an important part of any person’s life. A lot of people who lacked a family or family support go through many heart aches and pain. They usually have very little in the way of a childhood and grow up faster then most. As a result they usually suffer in adult relationships.
For example as a person who lacked a childhood and a family I would say one effect is that in my relationships my fear of being hurt makes me shut down at some point in my involvement with people. I also tend to try and take on other peoples issues to protect myself from my own. I tend to be an extrovert in order to not be so introspective. That way I do not have to feel the pain I would if I did look inside.
I guess in conclusion my lack of family has also provided me with a lack of love.
This in turn influences me to give up in relationships before they start to get far.
Why I cry
I hate to cry and do so very little but when I do it is for many reasons I cry for my lost soul and my hurting heart. I cry for those who I have lost. I mostly cry for others pain but usually its combination of my sadness that comes out with those tears.
I the end I cry for my health. It makes me feel better though I cry so little rarely do I feel I am at happiness’s peak. I encourage people to be open to crying because of my own sadness. I dislike seeing people hurt but tears can soothe pain at times when you least expect it.
My heart can be broke and fly too
Our hearts come into the world to be broken at least once but that does not mean it will never cease. I believe heart break is part of life. To get your heart broken will teach you compassion. I learnt that through my own pains. Now my heart is in shambles but still ready to take on whatever is thrown my way. Hard as it is with a broken heart people can still fly. They can still achieve whatever they believe possible. For instances I dream of being a writer and because my heart is so broken it inspires me to do great works of poetry and articles.
Romantic relationships
Abusive relationships are often the result of low self-esteem. As thus I suggest many things before going into a romantic relationship. The reason I don’t say all relationships is because friendship and family can help you become ready for romance. When you suffer from low self-esteem it is good to have friends to help you through the process of introspection and a lot of times good to have a therapist as well.
A lot of people don’t understand but therapy is actually a strong thing and very potent form of relief. No person should feel ashamed for going to it. I know that when I went and now that I am still going my self-esteem and awareness went up and still is going up. This results in my ability to love more and careless of what others think of me in negative terms.
I haven’t gotten to romance yet and honestly still have a ways to go, But learning to trust my true friends and myself is opening me up to the idea that someday something good will happen to my heart. I think that it is important to emphasis trusting yourself more then your friends though. Friends hide behind varies masks.
For those who are feeling like giving up on love and eventually being able to have. I have been there and I want them to know that working through that want to let go is part of the process and that letting go means more pain then joy or relief.
Written by A. Dawn in 2007
What do we seek really when seeking love? Is possibly for validation that we are good enough for others or companionship. I think sometimes the reason love doesn’t work is because we seek it out first for these very reason and other reasons as well.
Then, there is the fact that when we find it we never see it until its gone or else we wasted too much time trying to find it when it’s right in front of our faces.
Time and time again, I have thought I have found something or someone special just to be let down. I sometimes pondered it and concluded it was just me being dumb and stupid. Blaming the failure on myself and saying I wasn’t good enough. Now realize it was not me but my approach to love itself.
Love is not something to be sought out but hoped for. You live life as it comes at you planning for the best preparing for the worst. If you do find love you, love it and make it a part of you. If it ever goes away you move on. Spending some time mourning then building a bridge to get over the river of tears.
Love is unpredictable and it is human nature is to fight change so why do we seek love so much? If it causes so much pain why bother with it? I say because it also shows happiness you cannot get through another way, happiness that wouldn’t be appreciated without pain. Pain is what makes happiness in love grand.
So ask yourself all things consider do you love or not.
Why is love an important part of life
Love, what is it and why is it so important to us? Sometimes I stay up at night crying thinking it the worst thing ever and then next I thank god for it. To be honest I think love is the most important part of life. Loving yourself first and then others develops a great sense of pride, fulfillment happiness and gratefulness for life.
I think without love you can become much more focused on physical aspects of success in life and forget the emotional fulfillment everyone needs. That can be not only a lonely life but a sad, empty, hurtful life full of pain. I realize even with love life is painful but the pain love entails is enriching. It can change you life if you look at it positively. I know from experience. I was once in love with a very big jerk. I gave him something I could not get back and never will. That something was my virginity. He used me for it and as much as I should hate him I actually thank him. I am angry at him but not only do I know what love is I also know to not let it make you do things you wouldn’t normally do. I took pride in my virginity as I was eighteen and still had it. Most people I knew lost it young and though I don’t degrade them or look down at them but simply look at what it put them through and learn from it. Now I know why I waited. Emotionally I would have been distraught if I hadn’t.
Hopefully if you read this you will see that even though the pain I went through obviously hurt me it helped me too. I think love can be that way for anyone who has the right outlook.
Family
Family is an important part of any person’s life. A lot of people who lacked a family or family support go through many heart aches and pain. They usually have very little in the way of a childhood and grow up faster then most. As a result they usually suffer in adult relationships.
For example as a person who lacked a childhood and a family I would say one effect is that in my relationships my fear of being hurt makes me shut down at some point in my involvement with people. I also tend to try and take on other peoples issues to protect myself from my own. I tend to be an extrovert in order to not be so introspective. That way I do not have to feel the pain I would if I did look inside.
I guess in conclusion my lack of family has also provided me with a lack of love.
This in turn influences me to give up in relationships before they start to get far.
Why I cry
I hate to cry and do so very little but when I do it is for many reasons I cry for my lost soul and my hurting heart. I cry for those who I have lost. I mostly cry for others pain but usually its combination of my sadness that comes out with those tears.
I the end I cry for my health. It makes me feel better though I cry so little rarely do I feel I am at happiness’s peak. I encourage people to be open to crying because of my own sadness. I dislike seeing people hurt but tears can soothe pain at times when you least expect it.
My heart can be broke and fly too
Our hearts come into the world to be broken at least once but that does not mean it will never cease. I believe heart break is part of life. To get your heart broken will teach you compassion. I learnt that through my own pains. Now my heart is in shambles but still ready to take on whatever is thrown my way. Hard as it is with a broken heart people can still fly. They can still achieve whatever they believe possible. For instances I dream of being a writer and because my heart is so broken it inspires me to do great works of poetry and articles.
Romantic relationships
Abusive relationships are often the result of low self-esteem. As thus I suggest many things before going into a romantic relationship. The reason I don’t say all relationships is because friendship and family can help you become ready for romance. When you suffer from low self-esteem it is good to have friends to help you through the process of introspection and a lot of times good to have a therapist as well.
A lot of people don’t understand but therapy is actually a strong thing and very potent form of relief. No person should feel ashamed for going to it. I know that when I went and now that I am still going my self-esteem and awareness went up and still is going up. This results in my ability to love more and careless of what others think of me in negative terms.
I haven’t gotten to romance yet and honestly still have a ways to go, But learning to trust my true friends and myself is opening me up to the idea that someday something good will happen to my heart. I think that it is important to emphasis trusting yourself more then your friends though. Friends hide behind varies masks.
For those who are feeling like giving up on love and eventually being able to have. I have been there and I want them to know that working through that want to let go is part of the process and that letting go means more pain then joy or relief.
Written by A. Dawn in 2007
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